So, you’d promised to meet up with a friend and felt too tired after work to do so. What do you do? Do you call your friend and let them know that you’re no longer able to meet up with them because you’re feeling too tired or cook up a different story to duck out of it?
Ah! Here we go, can imagine the expression on your faces as you read this. You know what am talking about – don’t you!
My friend wanted us to meet up after work on Tuesday, last week; and honestly, I wanted to. This is someone I enjoy their company very much and would always look forward to meeting up with. But, on the day, I felt too tired after work and didn’t feel up to meeting up besides going home to get a good nap. I felt caught between telling the truth, going ahead with the meeting or cooking up an excuse to duck out of it. As much as I didn’t want to disappoint my friend, I also needed to be honest with my situation at the time. So, I spent time thinking about what to say to my friend, and as I did so, I got a text from them saying they were not feeling well on the day and not at work and asked for us to postpone to a later date. I felt a big relief!
However, this got me thinking whether we all sometimes feel this way. Perhaps, my friend felt the same way, and came up with an excuse just as the one above to duck out of it? Whilst they were trying to probably duck of the situation; I was also trying to do the same. Could we have been open and honest and just agree that Tuesday wasn’t a good day for us to meet up, even though, we were both looking forward to it? Do we sometimes make things unnecessarily difficult for ourselves? If we could only be open and honest about situations without being overly sensitive; then, we would have succeeded in transforming the way we relate to each other.
We must know that we are friends because we can be honest about things. We are open about meeting up and other priorities in our lives without creating negative feelings. You respect me as an individual and I do the same. By so doing, we would appreciate that there are times when we could actually have wanted to do something but could not because we are truly exhausted – no hard feelings whatsoever!
So, if you’re faced with the same situation, you have three options: meet up, cook up a story or tell your friend the truth. If you are lucky, you won’t have to do any of the three. If not, then you have a very easy task ahead! Whatever you do, try not to leave your excuse too late in the day – its called been considerate! However, you could actually have an unexpected situation on the day, this is where your friendship gets tested. What can I say except I wish you all the bes