We are never much bothered about our actions until they come back to us. I am not here talking necessarily about Karma. Rather, I am more interested in how we react to how we’ve been treated by other people; even when we’ve done worse. We seem to think that it is okay to treat other people how we wish, but not okay for people to treat us the same way.
What you’ve failed to realise is that the way you behave says a lot about who you are, and how you would like to be treated too. You teach people how you’d like to be treated by your actions. If you derive happiness in making other people sad, you would attract people like you into your life, and they will end up treating you the same way. You may feel like a winner at that moment; but the truth is that you’ve actually lost all sense of dignity and trust from other people. That’s more than you’ve taken from the people you treated badly.
Also, your actions reveal how you feel about yourself at every point in time. Think for a moment, if you are happy person, would you reflect sadness? No, the reason why you are displaying sadness is because you are sad in yourself and are looking for a company. Your target company is usually a happy person, and this is because happiness is the opposite of sadness. You target a happy person because they are showing the opposite of who you are. Unfortunately, your sadness is increased by targeting this people, your situation is unchanged, and you become a target of who you are too. What an interesting chain of events!
I hear you say things like – I just don’t like that race, don’t like the way they speak, and many more. And for these reasons, you treat them disrespectfully. Think about it, is this really because they are the opposite of you? And what’s wrong in them being different from you? Are they in fact better than you because they are not about disrespecting other people? Asking yourself these questions before you act can help you begin thinking in a different way. Your decision determines your actions toward other people, and consequently, how other people treat you too. People continuously make up their minds on whether they’d like to be involved in your life and how to treat you. These are serious decisions and in most cases in response to who you are.
There’s nothing wrong in treating other people well. Why treat other people the way you don’t want to be treated? Just as they don’t know your story; you don’t know theirs. This means that you don’t know them enough to be disrespectful or bad to them. A lot of people out there have stories to them, which make them who they are, and ones you may not necessarily agree to. Unfortunately, treating them badly will not change who they are; rather, it makes things worse, shows your true personality, and lays the groundwork for how people will treat you too.
The fact that you treat people badly shows you are the problem. Afterall, you cannot give what you do not have. When you begin to treat people right, then you will receive the same act of kindness in return.